The idea to name my blog Restless Mind came largely out of my own experience of mental activity, which at times amounts to a near incessant buzz of to-do lists, worries and ruminations. I used to think this is a condition unique to me or a like-minded few, but my experience in working with people of all backgrounds suggests that it is a feature shared by most reading this.
In fact, my work as a therapist in the public health sector has helped me understand that the experience of racing thoughts is consistent among those seeking some form of emotional support. We do, after all, live in the digital age, which truly represents an unprecedented era of near-constant mental stimulation.
On a daily basis, we are exposed to a barrage of information: news feeds, social media, electronic billboards and radio advertisements – even elevators have screens in them now (because the alternative would clearly be intolerable). We are ravenous consumers of information, trivial and profound.
I’m sure we can all agree that most of us suffer from a form of mental interference that can at times obscure our ability to be present with others, ourselves, and the wonder that is life.
Although I can appreciate some aspects of my restless mind, such as the ability to get (certain) things done like a man on a mission – it is clear that there is a basic imbalance of present-moment awareness and activity. This distinction is often referred to as the difference between the ‘doing’ mind, and the ‘being’ mind.
Although I strongly identify with the description of my mind seemingly being driven by an engine, my hope would be something more peaceful, or at least congruent with the present moment – to be gently aware of the nature of one’s mind and relationships. All the while cultivating the ability to simply be present from time to time to better enjoy and savour life. Of course, this is easier said than done, especially when you have kids!
But all the more important if you do.
In this blog, I want to create a space to share experiences and reflections, particularly those related to parenting, relationships, personal growth, social justice, and mental health. I do not want to position myself as an expert. After all, my truth is my own. However, I do hope to grasp for those shared meanings from which we can all learn and relate.
Finally, my goal is to help those struggling to feel empowered to carry forward with new insights; emboldened by the knowledge that you are already enough. I believe it is through the expression of our lived experiences – those that are deeply authentic (and not always pleasant) that we create the conditions for personal growth and connection to others.
All the best,
Tom Nakonechny, R. Psych